A Great Summer Read: Wifey 101
Wifey 101: Everything I Got Wrong After Finding Mr. Right.
In my constant quest to find an entertaining new book, it’s rare that I find a real page turner. You know the one: the kind of book that keeps you up late at night, causing you to sleep through your alarm the next morning. It’s the book that ignites your senses and gives you all the feels. Well, I found one, and am ready to pass on my first summer read recommendation: Wifey 101 by Jamie Otis with Dibs Baer — and I’m not just saying this, because Dibs and Jamie are my friends. This is from the heart, for anyone looking for a juicy new read. More to come throughout the summer…
You might remember Jamie Otis from our season of The Bachelor. But most likely you know her from Married at First Sight, the FYI show where she agreed to a scientifically arranged, legally binding marriage to Doug Hehner. Seems crazy right? But really, why not leave it to the relationship experts? Who do you know that’s doing a better job just picking their own romantic partners? Crickets, right? Heck, it would be interesting to bring in the same matchmaking experts for The Bachelor. (Attention producers!)
You probably don’t remember my tear-filled apology at the Women Tell All special during my season. Honestly, like most traumatic experiences, it’s a little bit of a blur for me, too. I do remember saying, “If anyone is ever in Los Angeles, look me up. You’re welcome to stay at my house and I would love to get to know you under different circumstances.” For example, when we’re not all trying to date the same dude…
Jamie Otis is actually one of the only ladies that took me up on this and I’m so happy she did. She didn’t stay at my house, but when she was in town recently, we had a fun champagne-fueled brunch — with a few cast members from the Lifetime show UnReal!
Side note, I love the show UnReal. But we’ll discuss that later…
Anyway, during my season, Jamie and I always got along and she was super nice and great at staying out of the drama. I remember that she was the first to ask me a question about my modeling career, a few weeks into filming — and I definitely remember that she didn’t take the information I gave her and gossip about it. Besides my show roomies Casey Shteamer and Rachel Truehart, she was one of the only girls that made a real effort to get to know me. And while she didn’t stick up for me at the Women Tell All, she kept her sweet vibe going and stayed out of the witch hunt. So, I was stoked to see if that chill attitude carried over into her new book.
The new book, that’s why we’re here. I’m so proud of Jamie for writing and self-publishing her own book, totally committing to her show-made romance and getting married on national television, creating her own jewelry line, and, most importantly, for being brave enough to do all of the above, while trying to help people.
I read her book, Wifey 101, in a day, and it not only helped me but I think it will help so many people who really need a look into a great and honest love story.
I wasn’t sure if I would love her book, seeing as I assumed it would only be about getting married “at first sight,” and I had already watched the whole season (glued to the TV, mind you). But this book is honestly so much more than that. It has so much heart. I could even see it being turned into a movie, it’s just that good.
I love the love story here, but I also love her life story and her raw honesty in how she overcame the cards that were unfortunately dealt to her. I don’t want to give away too much, but I will say it’s a miracle Jamie has come this far and with such a great attitude. Just to name a few topics she touches on, she’s dealt with/ abuse, poverty, and neglect. Heavy stuff.
When I met up with Jamie a bit ago, it was the first time I had seen her since she got the boot in Panama on our season of The Bachelor. (And yes, for you superfans, that was the same night she straddled Ben and taught him how to make out…) It wasn’t awkward at all, and I finally got to apologize for a moment on that episode that looked like I was being a jerk. In reality, I was having a meltdown that night, because producers told me he was waiting for me in the pool. Instead, I ended up interrupting her alone time with him.
We talked about her desire to write a book and I was so excited for her, I connected her with my dear friend Dibs, who helped me write I Didn’t Come Here to Make Friends. See! I can share! Just as long as it’s not a man…
When I started writing my own book, I had zero help, and was getting kind of lost in the process, and not in a good way. The first agent I sent my proposal to had the following notes for me: “Crass, too tabloidy. Doesn’t read well and needs a lot of work.”
After crying in bed for two days straight (no joke), I suddenly realized something: That agent could be wrong. So, I got out of bed, wiped off my racoon eyes, and took the same proposal to another agent. And the rest, as they say, is history. Lesson learned: Don’t ever give up and never forget to trust your gut.
When I first met Jamie’s husband Doug, I realized that they are the real deal. And now, after reading her book, you will not only be a believer, you’ll also gain some wonderful insight on making a relationship work, how to deal with exes, and you will doubtless be on Team Jamie & Doug. It’s not the most conventional love story, but it is one that will make history.
When I was reading Wifey 101, I was at a place in a relationship where I was getting ready to throw in the towel. Jamie’s book really helped me figure out the right thing to do for myself and I’m thankful to have read it when I did. It helped me take a hard, honest look at what it takes to make a relationship work and made me realize how I was letting past relationships affect me.
Being the serial monogamist that I am, I’ve always had long-term boyfriends. My longest relationship was 7 years, plus I’ve had two 2-year relationships, and a 1-year. After reading this book, I took a hard look at why they didn’t work out. To be honest, I think I gave up. Still, I can look back at all my serious relationships fondly and I know I learned a lot from them.
If you’re struggling with a good lens to look at your own past loves, here’s your first step. No relationship comes with a manual, but Wifey 101 is helpful, heartfelt, and hilarious! If you’re already married or you want to be in a healthy long-term relationship, Wifey 101 is for you! Jamie is one smart girl and I can’t wait to see what she accomplishes next.
One thing Jamie said about her book is that her goal was to inspire and help at least one person.
Mission accomplished, girlfriend. Here’s to happily ever afters!